Optimism V. Realism
Wednesday, September 26th, 2012After a meeting at Stanford increasing meds, followed by a session at physical therapy at SPOC (Fresno residents will know), I don’t have the energy for an original blog - or at least my two cents on the NFL replacement refs. Here’s a blog from 1/29/08 that still makes sense:
Optimists don’t consider themselves pie-in-the-sky thinkers. They just choose to look for the best in whatever happens around them. Noted speaker and author, Zig Ziglar, said, “Positive thinking won’t allow you to do anything - but, it will allow you to do everything better than negative thinking will.” Pessimists don’t consider them negative thinkers. Realistic is how they feel their approach to life is. The late Detroit Pistons basketball coach (Hall-of-Famer and former two-time World Champion), Chuck Daly, once claimed, “A pessimist is just an optimist with experience.“Which is better? Just like in ordering food, buying clothes or selecting (or choosing not to select) a fitness program, it all depends on the individual. What makes a person feel most comfortable is usually the right choice. However, how that choice affects others is of major concern. People who keep their outlook to themselves seldom hurt (or influence) others, but when someone goes public, whether to a large group or a single individual, the remark or speech can brighten or dampen the mood of the receiver(s).
I’m a bit of a satirist (the way I describe my humor) or sarcastic (the way some others, especially those lacking a similar disposition to mine, describe it). I make comments that some (or most, as I like to think) people find ranging from rather amusing to downright hilarious (because I try to direct my humor in at a general situation as opposed to at specific individual - although I must admit there are some blatantly easy and, seemingly willing, targets out there) . Anyone with a quick wit will, over the course of a lifetime, relationship, school year, etc., say something that might offend someone (especially if that person prides themselves on how serious they take life). Many of those times the offender wishes the quip hadn’t come out that way (or, simply, hadn’t come out at all), but as Bob Haldeman said to John Dean, “Once the toothpaste is out of the tube, it’s tough to get it back in.” It’s the risk a satirist (I’ll choose that term) takes, rather than to allow a meeting, discussion or conversation to wallow in interminable, yet serious, boredom.
There’s a story the late Jim Valvano told about being invited to the White House after he coached N.C. State to the National Championship. He told his mother about the invitation and, not being a big sports fan, she said, “Why, what did you do wrong?” Jim said, “No, ma, it’s an honor because we won,” to which she warned him, “Just don’t do anything to embarrass our family.”
The day of the meeting arrived and as they were waiting for the photo op, then-President Ronald Reagan turns to Jim and asks, “By the way, coach, is your name pronounced Val-vaa-no or Val-vay-no?” “V” says, it’s “Val-vaa-no, Mr. President.” After a pause, he looks at the president and says, “And is yours Ree-gan or Ray-gan.” As soon as he said it, he screamed out, “I’m sorry, ma!“ Probably apocryphal, but still vintage Valvano and, in the case of his mom, a lady who knew her son, i.e. a realist.
Also, two people can make the same statement, but it may be viewed it in an entirely different manner. If Eli Manning says the Giants will win the Super Bowl, people will call him an optimist (or some other terms my wife refuses to allow me to print here). If Tom Brady makes the same statement regarding his team, people think he’s just being realistic. (Remember, this blog is 4 years old).
So, when it comes to optimism versus pessimism, James Cabell made a statement that captures the essence of the debate perfectly:
“The optimist proclaims that we live in the best of all possible worlds. The pessimist fears that this is true.”