We’re headed up to Rocklin (near Sacramento) for a basketball tournament, so no blog tomorrow night, although I already have one in mind for Sunday night you definitely won’t want to miss.
California rules (that a coach can work with his team year round) and summer basketball has turned high school hoops into a 12 month ordeal. Many coaches (not only basketball) actually force their athletes into making a decision when they get to the high school level: it’s my sport only or don’t bother showing up.
If the athlete’s good enough, i.e. if he (and his parents) are in the position of power, they can call the coach’s bluff. More times than not, I’ve seen the coach back down, making the (wise) decision that part of a great player is better than none of him (truthfully, the reality of this situation is that this type of behavior is not at all limited to the male side of the equation). Especially when a coach of a female powerhouse, who’s looked up to by the community (including the district administration, who are way more interested in championships than they’ll ever admit), is the one giving the ultimatums.
It might be as veiled a statement as, “Well, if you really want to play in our program, you need to make a total commitment” (which, left unsaid - or not - means playing that sport all the time).
I have to admit that what was most attractive to me about coaching on the high school level was the fact that a coach could work year round with the guys. After working in college basketball, in which the NCAA continually cut back the time coaches were allowed to work with their squads (be it individual instruction or team practice), getting together whenever I desired sounded like nirvana.
One reason was I had prepared myself for thirty years to be a Division I head coach (independent of the level of D-I) and had organized everything from the pregame warm up routine and man-to-man offense, complemented by a multiple defense system to home and school recruiting visits and organizing a booster club (notice I mentioned “independent of the level” of D-I). Because this was going to be a little more sophisticated a system than the typical high school program, I needed that on-court time.Â
Never, though, did I plan on threatening a boy to play only basketball. One major reason is that I thought it would be highly hypocritical - since I played three sports (football, basketball and baseball) during my four year scholastic career.  Truth be told, basketball was my worst sport (of those three). In fact, while coaching at Buchanan (Clovis, CA) High School, nearly all of us were on the same page when it came to sharing our athletes, mainly for the same reason I felt, i.e. they played more than one sport during their high school days.
That leads me to our younger son, Alex. He plays basketball exclusively. In elementary school, he was, I was told by one of his teachers, the only kid in the school who participated in every sport that was offered throughout his 4th, 5th and 6th grade years. In 4th, it was cross country and wrestling (football and basketball weren’t allowed until 5th), in 5th he was the defensive MVP of the football team (ILB), captain of the basketball team and played volleyball. He was over the weight limit for football in 6th (you needed to be 121 - including pads - and Alex checked into 6th grade at 143, so he barely missed the cut . . . so he became the team’s manager). He once again played basketball, but with his buddies from the grade ahead of him (most of the kids in our neighborhood were now in the 7th grade) in junior high school, he decided he was going to forego volleyball and pick up baseball again (he’d played Little League but, although he started at third base - as one of only two 8-year old starters, he said the only thing he liked about America’s pasttime was that you were allowed to eat sunflower seeds during the game). After baseball concluded, he came home and told me he was going out for the track team. I thought it was a good idea, that all the running would keep him in shape. When I asked him what he was going to do, he told me, “High jump.” Of course, he had never high jumped, but once the coach showed him the technique, he wound up taking second in one of the final meets of the year. Once in junior high, and back with his buddies again, after basketball season, he took up tennis (his best friend was an outstanding tennis player and for two weeks a year, he’d attend his friend’s dad’s tennis camp. That was the extent of his tennis. Still, he ended up as #2 singles and went undefeated throughout the season. He hasn’t played tennis since.
Those of you who are still reading this rambling discourse (after reading a paper I turned in one time, my high school English teacher asked me if I was from Babylon) might be wondering if there’s a point. If there is, it’s this.
Although Alex plays basketball only, to be quite honest, part of me would love to see him play football (along with baseball, my two best sports). My wife doesn’t put up too much of a fight in instances like this. But, in the case of football, she’s seen me and the problems I’ve had (the first question doctors asked me, prior to the first of my eight back surgeries - two weeks after we got married was, “Were you ever in a car accident?” The next question was if I ever played football). And it’s not only me. Jane’s dad was quite the football player himself (as well as a state championship scholastic coach in Nashville, TN - where they take their FB seriously) and during his later years, the arthritis he developed (his doctor told him it was due to old football injuries) made it painful to watch him attempt to get up from our couch.
The capper came with Son #1. Andy is the ultimate team guy. In 2nd grade he told me a new kid had just moved in and they became fast friends. That kid was Zak Hill, the youngest of three sons of Fresno State’s new football coach, Pat Hill. Naturally, it was decided early on that, when they got the 5th grade, they’d be two of the stalwarts on the Valley Oak elementary school football team. Jane was worried and shared her concerns with our family doctor - who just happened to be the Bulldogs’ team doctor. He told Jane to let Andy play until 9th grade when they did away with weight limits. Jane thinks the world of our doc, so she agreed - until the day that Andy separated his shoulder in a blocking drill and had to have surgery of his own - at 13 years of age.  End of football in the Fertig household.
In addition, Alex is that rare athlete who just might be better served to concentrate on one sport. He has a future in basketball. Not that he’s going to be doing it for a living, but, with natural maturation of his body (he was measured and weighed at the Nike event in St. Louis at 6′2″ and 188) and mind, he ought to be able to parlay that skill into a free college education. And with parents in their (very, very) early 60’s, that’s quite a comforting thought.Â
I have tried to strike a balance between the coach who sees a gift a young boy has and encourages him to go for it and a father who’s interfering with his son’s life and pushes too hard. It’s a fine line, but so far, Alex has shown a genuine enthusiasm for basketball. With my obsession that people realize their potential, there is much more I’d do to get Alex to be better, but not if I feel it’s going to have a negative impact on his “being a kid.” It’s not easy, but when SI prints a story like the one they did a few issues ago on Todd Marinovich, backing off gets easier and easier.Â
I continue to use a quote by one of my favorite authors (and judging by how well - and how many of - his books sell, hundreds of others’ favorite author too), John C. Maxwell:
“If you want your life to be a fantastic story, realize you’re the author.”Â